I Cry, Therefore I am (a wuss)

30 Jul

Me watching Ramona and Beezus

With Jennifer out of town until Saturday, the girls and I watched “Despicable Me” Tuesday night and “Ramona and Beezus” last night. We’ll probably go see “Cats & Dogs: The Revenge of Kitty Galore” late this afternoon.

My goal today, after failing two times this week, is to NOT cry like a wee-wussy-man in front of a bunch of kids. Yes, I cried during “Despicable Me” and I cried more than once watching “Ramona and Beezus,” a movie I was dreading and had no hope for going in.

In Ramona, when she has ran away from home and in her suitcase she finds the book that her artistically-inclined father has been doodling in, she realizes how much she is loved, then her family pulls up to the bus stop…it was all so predictable…so why did it get to me? A young girl behind us was sobbing loudly during this part. I wanted to turn around and look but I didn’t want her mother to see my tear-streaked face.

I spend half the movie gazing at my daughters, watching their expressions, and displaying to them (they look at me far less, believe me) mock expressions of shock, anger, or sadness at what’s happening on the screen. The key to my sensitivity is obvious–my strings are easily pulled. In both movies, a central theme was the love between a father and his daughters. Even in a mediocre movie, that stuff kills me.

167 Responses to “I Cry, Therefore I am (a wuss)”

  1. bmj2k July 30, 2010 at 9:35 am #

    Kudos for spending time with your daughters, but three movies in three days? This is the summer- go outdoors!

    But I’m just teasing. Kids films and animated films know how to tug the heartstrings. More than once I’ve had to turn my head from the screen top.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:25 pm #

      Yeah, three movies was extreme. We just returned from the third. No tears during Cats & Dogs.

    • Free Video Dating with AmbientInteractions.com July 31, 2010 at 11:45 pm #

      I’m a relatively big black guy, why can’t I cry? Am I not allowed?

      • www.vestuves1.lt August 2, 2010 at 3:51 am #

        Why not… try to hide somewhere and cry for an hour πŸ˜‰

  2. sparklingbytheway July 30, 2010 at 9:35 am #

    Well, I’m a girl but a tough girl…and those movies got to me too. I also watch my kids watching the movie, more so than the actual movie. My girls don’t have a dad so the Ramona movie about broke my heart. I guess, despite my tough girl exterior, I will have to join your wussy club…if you allow girls? πŸ™‚

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:27 pm #

      Ha Ha. Of course I allow girls.

  3. Emily Jane July 30, 2010 at 9:37 am #

    I’m totally with you – I cry at EVERYTHING πŸ™‚

    • Natalie Helen August 1, 2010 at 6:16 am #

      I’m with you Emily Jane. I too, cry at everything. I believe that anyone who cries while watching a movie, or consoling a friend etc, has experienced those feelings some time in their lives, and can totally relate to them. I just love it so much, that when I get upset, my partner sometimes cries with, or for me. It makes me love HIM more, because I see his real heart.

    • soul93 August 1, 2010 at 7:00 am #

      ya i know..me too..i cant help but crying at movies..or atleast have a lump in my throat and then i cry later..when no one can see me.:)

  4. Raul July 30, 2010 at 9:38 am #

    Cute story…thank you for sharing. We recently went to see Toy Story 3…not only was it good it made me and my girlfriend both tear up. Luckily I had 3D glasses on so it was harder to see that I was crying. I did that thing where I wipe my tears by acting like I am itching my face…grrrr…darn you movies that make me tear!! It was a great movie though.

    http://www.wutevs.wordpress.com

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:31 pm #

      Ha. Yeah, I agree, that WAS a good one. I used to say that if a movie doesn’t make me cry, it isn’t a great movie, but since I cry so easily I can’t use that to judge films anymore.

  5. thejamminjabber July 30, 2010 at 9:39 am #

    Yes. Yes you are. πŸ™‚

  6. parkey July 30, 2010 at 9:40 am #

    Wait ’til you see Toy Story 3!

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:32 pm #

      I did, sniff-sniff. Pixar really knows how to get to the parents.

  7. BernieLuvsEllen July 30, 2010 at 9:41 am #

    Awe. Well there is a real Dad! πŸ˜‰

    • kimcheegirl July 30, 2010 at 2:54 pm #

      Stumbled across your post.. I completely agree with this guy!!!!

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:33 pm #

      Thanks!

  8. morgangreenster July 30, 2010 at 9:48 am #

    I wish I could cry more often. Our culture turns people into angry and even violent people way too often!

  9. The Great Mama Experiment July 30, 2010 at 9:54 am #

    The older I get the easier it is for a movie, book, etc to make the water-works start. My kids look at me and roll their eyes.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:34 pm #

      Yeah, my kids are baffled by me crying at “their” movies.

  10. LaboriousLiving July 30, 2010 at 9:55 am #

    My eldest always stares at me when a sad paart comes on in a movie. I know she’s just waiting to see if I cray. It’s rather sweet.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:35 pm #

      I used to do that to my wife…now she does it to me!

  11. JamesBrett July 30, 2010 at 10:15 am #

    i wanted so badly to make fun of you…

    but i once cried in “king of the hill.” poor bobby.

    • Thundercows July 30, 2010 at 2:39 pm #

      “King of The Hill”?! πŸ™‚
      Please explain…

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:37 pm #

      Ha ha.
      Your baby’s beautiful, by the way.

      • JamesBrett July 30, 2010 at 10:12 pm #

        thanks. i’ve been super blessed to have her in my life — and that’d be true whether or not she was beautiful. but i think you’re right, all the same…

  12. girlonthecontrary July 30, 2010 at 10:15 am #

    I definitely cried in Ramona and Beezus! The very same part you mentioned had me wiping tears off my face trying to make it look like it was no big deal because I’m the grown-up and supposed to be tough. Don’t even get me started on how much I balled during Up. It was a tear fest. Great post!

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:40 pm #

      Thanks! Yeah, UP, that’s another good one. That one is worth multiple viewings.

  13. Ahna Rebekah Hendrix July 30, 2010 at 10:23 am #

    I was smiling while reading your post because I too, have an emotional father, and I think it’s awesome!

    Even though I am an adult now (kinda), my father still gets all teary when I go to see him and when I leave. Quite often he gets teary in-between as well and makes sure to hug me constantly. He has always been this way.

    Growing up my mother was the exact opposite in terms of showing emotion and love ~ so I am especially grateful to my father for always making sure to show me love in his own mushy way.

    Not only did he show me love, but he taught me that real men can cry and it doesn’t say/mean anything about their capacity to be a man ~ real men can cry and cry freely.

    Keep crying and don’t worry about looking silly (if you even do)~ you are giving your daughters a wonderful gift πŸ˜‰

    Great post!

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:41 pm #

      Thanks so much for sharing. I didn’t see my father cry until I was a teenager.

  14. TheIntentionalSage July 30, 2010 at 10:24 am #

    There is nothing wrong with crying. In fact, there is something wrong with NOT crying. When one feels sadness, one should display the physical symptoms of sadness (in that moment). If you don’t feel the emotions in the moment, you are only going to have to deal with them at some other time. (Yes, even if these emotions are inspired simply because of an animated film.) I’m not intending to spam (so I won’t post the link), but my most recent post at “Imagine Into Being” (can be found by clicking on my name at the top of this message “The Intentional Sage”), has to do with the importance of emotions and feeling them in the moment.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    The Intentional Sage

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:43 pm #

      Thanks for sharing. I’m going to check out your page.

  15. Lindsay July 30, 2010 at 10:31 am #

    It’s so incredibly sweet that you’re willing to cry in front of your daughters. I think you’re setting a good example for them to find a man who is able to show his sensitive, loving side. πŸ™‚

    http://www.thedailyawe.com

  16. Adam Day July 30, 2010 at 10:37 am #

    Hey we all do!

  17. chocolatehabit July 30, 2010 at 10:48 am #

    Not a wuss! I cried during Ramona and Beezus too. I loved the father daughter relationship and got all tearing just thinking about how blessed my girls are to have a good relationship with thier dad. The sister bond got to me too, having 2 girls I love knowing they will always be there for each other.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:48 pm #

      My girls, 5 and 10, have been fighting SO much this summer. Ha. Thanks for sharing and good luck with your running! Reading your blog gave me some motivation to start running regularly. I need to set some goals like you have.

  18. CMartin Photography July 30, 2010 at 10:51 am #

    I have to say, my rough n tough construction worker hubby has a huge soft spot too. You’re not a wuss, you are a true man. True men arent afraid to cry when they feel. Heck, true men…feel.
    http://www.cmartinphotography.wordpress.com

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:50 pm #

      Thank you! Those pictures from your Blackberry ARE SO AWESOME!

  19. Victorious Women July 30, 2010 at 11:03 am #

    So you were touched. You’re sensitive. What does that have to do with your manhood? According to societal rules, men are not supposed to cry. So why do you have emotions? Tears? Fears?

    Why?

    You’re a human being. I don’t know if women really want a crying man, but they want a sensitive man. Is it possible to have one without the other?

    Vivian Dixon Sober
    victoriouswomen.wordpress.com

  20. debbieatwood July 30, 2010 at 11:04 am #

    Geez… You’re going to make me cry just reading your post. Thanks for sharing. πŸ™‚ You’re a good Dad/Father

  21. jonmichaelson July 30, 2010 at 11:28 am #

    Dude, I see a therapist for Social phobia… and I have to say, reading your Social phobic description in your “About” section made me laugh my ass off. Thank you.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 7:58 pm #

      Well thank you and you’re welcome. I’m going to check out your blog right now.

  22. pheonixrider July 30, 2010 at 11:41 am #

    Lol this story kind of reminds me of last year when i watched astro boy and cried at the end… i’m telling you i couldn’t help it…T_T Lol.

  23. Thundercows July 30, 2010 at 11:54 am #

    I think that sensitivity is an underestimated characteristic of all times; you can actually sense life better while not having any tough and cynic wall that can separate you from the world.
    At this way the outcome of the new ideas is better, the connection with your loved ones, etc.

    Wondercows.wordpress.com

  24. CrystalSpins July 30, 2010 at 12:30 pm #

    I’m a HUGE crybaby these days — and not just at movies. It’s like I get overwhelmed by the smallest things.

    http://crystalspins.com

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:04 pm #

      Good luck with your writing!! I’ve been spending huge chunks of time in the writing/publishing section at Borders.

  25. eamyvi July 30, 2010 at 12:37 pm #

    Oh I don’t believe crying for a man equals being a wuss. It just makes you a really caring father. πŸ™‚

  26. fa July 30, 2010 at 12:45 pm #

    Hey! Its very different to hear (rather read) about a dad who cries infront of the daughters. Its me and my mom in my house. And believe me, we are made fun of on that.. πŸ˜›

    Congrats on being on the homepage! πŸ™‚

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:05 pm #

      Thanks! I had no idea why people were actually reading my blog. I went from five views on a normal day to over 2,000 today.

      • CMartin Photography July 31, 2010 at 7:30 am #

        Your blog is featured on the ‘freshly pressed’ tab at wordpress. Congrats on the readers!

  27. thesinglemomblog July 30, 2010 at 12:56 pm #

    Great! I wish there were more dads like you!

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:05 pm #

      Aw, thanks.

  28. wisdomunconventional July 30, 2010 at 1:04 pm #

    I agree with Lindsay. It will greatly benefit your daughters to know that it is ok for a man to be emotional! Too many fathers perpetuate the stereotype that daddies (and then sons) have to be tough all the time; I think a lot of boys and eventually men miss out on some of the finer things in life because of it.

    And I am a crier, I cry. I know how good it feels sometimes, especially at movies! You get that emotional catharsis without actually having to cry about your own issues. What a wonderful scapegoat! Now I need to see that movie!

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:09 pm #

      Thanks for sharing! Oh, and I love your blog. I just bookmarked it.

  29. Andy Westbrook July 30, 2010 at 1:08 pm #

    Good for you on all accounts of capturing those moments with your kids and for realizing that emotional display is both natural and normal. Having four kids myself, I can say that when time is well spent, you learn more about yourself along with them.

    Spielberg’s film adaptation of JG. Ballards book Empire of the Sun, 1984.
    The final scene where Christian Bales character fails to recognize his own mother and father standing right in front of him. It is the feel of her check in his reached out hand that brings back the memory which was taken aside by separation during war time.
    I get chocked every time-stops me in my tracks.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:11 pm #

      Thanks, and I’m going to check out that movie.

  30. Lisa July 30, 2010 at 1:13 pm #

    I prefer sensitive people. I didn’t know that was in theaters. I always loved Beverly Cleary.

  31. Clementine July 30, 2010 at 1:16 pm #

    Yeah, I have caught Lee, a time or two , shedding tears while watching movies with his kids πŸ™‚

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:12 pm #

      aaaaww. That big softy!

      And I think I saw a tear sliding down his cheek in that new photo of him changing a tire on the side of the road. lol.

  32. alessandraspeaks July 30, 2010 at 1:19 pm #

    Oh! Despicable Me was fantastic! And definitely strummed some heart-strings.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:14 pm #

      Yeah, it was better than I expected. Definitely didn’t think I would need tissues. ha.

  33. cocktailsattiffanys July 30, 2010 at 1:27 pm #

    I always feel like I am the only one crying in the theatre…but sometimes, you just can’t help it! Besides, I loved the Ramona books as a child.

    xoxo,

    Lucky

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:16 pm #

      I thought I was the only one until I heard the little girl behind me. I tried to spot at least ONE other adult.

  34. Vodka and Ground Beef July 30, 2010 at 1:27 pm #

    I cried when I read the Ramona Quimby books. I can’t imagine seeing one live. I might have a nervous breakdown.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:19 pm #

      My oldest didn’t even warn me. She even knew the cat was going to die in the movie. Yeah, that a little weird about you carrying meat in your purse, but, of course, people think I’m weird for being a vegan.

  35. thecodger July 30, 2010 at 1:29 pm #

    That sounds like a good movie to me, though I can’t say for sure because I haven’t seen it with my own two eyes. I would not recommend taking your daughters to see Twilight Eclipse, which is quite scary.

    The Codger
    http://thecodger.wordpress.com/

  36. Robert Bain July 30, 2010 at 1:40 pm #

    If you wear contact you can always use my trick – during those emotional moments – just pop some eye drops in your eyes and say the lenses are bothering you πŸ™‚ If you are blubbering though, it probably won’t pass.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:21 pm #

      Hilarious. I’ll try that.

  37. jeikeilat July 30, 2010 at 1:50 pm #

    very cool story. i think you’re a cool dad. πŸ™‚

  38. JoDee Maree Green July 30, 2010 at 2:28 pm #

    I like this guy already!!

  39. Eric Lightborn July 30, 2010 at 2:37 pm #

    I think it is a good thing for children to be exposed to men expressing their emotions. There is too much suppression of emotion in the name masculinity in our culture and it does more harm than good.

    “In both movies, a central theme was the love between a father and his daughters.”

    I don’t cry much at movies, but that theme is touching and would move anyone with something other than coal for a heart.

    Don’t be embarrassed. I know you’ve heard it before but: it’s okay to cry.

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:25 pm #

      “There is too much suppression of emotion in the name masculinity in our culture and it does more harm than good.”

      So true. So so true.

      Thanks for your comments!

  40. malenurseandmore July 30, 2010 at 3:02 pm #

    You go ahead and cry brother. i do it all the time. I might stifle it just a bit now and then but only due to foolish pride. Nothing wrong with some well needed, soul cleansing crying. Atta Boy to you!

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:28 pm #

      Thanks man. I loved your post about washing dishes.

  41. Simon July 30, 2010 at 3:36 pm #

    I’m a bloke who never cries, I’m far too guarded for that. Trying to think of films which HAVE made me teary is quite difficult – Fores Gump? Armageddon?

    Simon @ http://simplesimonsaid.wordpress.com

  42. mattbortmess July 30, 2010 at 4:57 pm #

    as a dad, i’m right there with you. i think i’m getting more emotional the older i get.

  43. oldancestor July 30, 2010 at 5:26 pm #

    I haven’t cried at a movie since 1982, when Spock died at the end of Wrath of Khan. Then the whole thing turned out to be a scam.

    I was robbed!

  44. StageISSet July 30, 2010 at 5:30 pm #

    I second you man, i have bcum a sissy…an emotional fool and weep at every smallest thing…even a song can make me cry…damn….

    http://stageisset.wordpress.com

  45. michvayn July 30, 2010 at 6:19 pm #

    I completely understand what it’s like to be a cry baby, I feel as if I cry about everything no matter how I feel. I don’t find anything wrong with it, it’s good to feel, and some times it’s good to cry.

  46. Melina's Hangout July 30, 2010 at 6:21 pm #

    It’s ok to cry Honey!!! Maybe I am a little late but you were probably a mess at Toy Story 3. Right? It made me cry. I am a 50 year old Grandma. Great job on your Blog!!

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 8:32 pm #

      Ha. Yes, we loved Toy Story 3. Loved the photo of you and your hubby…YOUNG-looking grandparents.

  47. goldenpast July 30, 2010 at 6:23 pm #

    hahaha!
    The title of this post made want to click this post!

    • goldenpast July 30, 2010 at 6:24 pm #

      *made me

  48. Determined2fly July 30, 2010 at 8:53 pm #

    Thanks for the cute story πŸ™‚ Don’t worry about being a wuss, when in doubt, watch Finding Nemo again

    • fightn4it July 30, 2010 at 9:02 pm #

      Thanks! People here have convinced me that crying is totally fine and normal. I love Finding Nemo!!

      • wishjoy July 31, 2010 at 4:07 am #

        I’ve only seen my hubby teary eyed, tell me of a real tear jerker film so I can see him cry!

  49. DLFields July 30, 2010 at 9:36 pm #

    Don’t be ashamed to have emotions. One day you’ll turn around and your little girls won’t be so little anymore. Maybe the tears are your way of wondering if you’re doing a good job, if you wonder, then you probably are.
    Personally I can’t listen to Sweet Child of Mine without welling up.

  50. Skydancer (Guardian Angel) July 30, 2010 at 9:51 pm #

    Welcome to the proud family of fellow Wusses! πŸ™‚
    And let yourself go! Give in to your better nature and let the tears flow! πŸ™‚

  51. nursewrachette July 30, 2010 at 10:04 pm #

    I commend you for spending time with your kids. Fearlessly attending childrens movies, tears and all. You are a real man.

  52. achilliad July 30, 2010 at 10:10 pm #

    Dude! This society (America) on one hand wants us to be “strong” men and leaders, and on the other hand wants to emasculate us into “stay-at-home-fathers’. Until we continue to stand-up and announce that they cannot have it both ways you will feel the way you do. Even in the animal kingdom, ther are certain roles for the male and certain ones for the female. Having said that, NEVER feel wussy when a cinema evokes the emotions that manifest themselves in tears from yoour eyes. After all, tears must fall because we are HUMAN…I watched “Mr. Holland’s Opus” for the first time because a neighbor lent the VHS to me this past week. I teared-up several times – I would relate to the story. Notice I said, “teared-up” as opposed to “cried” – you Wuss! LOL

    • Skydancer (Guardian Angel) August 10, 2010 at 12:43 am #

      Achilliad:

      And there are those who don’t fit into the standard roles. We should be allowed to be what we are too. I desperately want to be a “wuss” and bawl my eyes out in public just like I do, so often, in private. But I’m too afraid.

      That should not be! I should be allowed to be who I am.

      The movie that moved me to tears more than any other was “Grave of the fireflies”. I literally cried for a week.

  53. rakkav July 30, 2010 at 10:12 pm #

    You cry, therefore you are (not a wuss). πŸ™‚

    You fit the self-description on top of your blog? Eh, maybe your wussitude is negotiable after all. :))

    Or more likely, you’re just a Jungian _NF_, like me. I’m an ENFP, and happen to be not too neurotic, centrist, not nearly health-concerned enough, and far from vegan. Oh yes, and I cry (gently) at movies and songs (including my own songs, I’m so pathetic) and don’t care who notices. Just another kind of wuss. :))

    First guess for you: INFP.

    I think you might well profit from finding out what core type you have (and remember, the famous MBTI test misses one or more letters in the “core type” 30% of the time; it’s only meant to be a first approximation). I have a nice list of links you can explore on my own blog, under “Personality Type”.

  54. sarahnsh July 30, 2010 at 10:19 pm #

    My mom cries at everything it seems like lately and I make fun of her for it. I can’t help it, it’s just too funny her breaking down and balling over stuff I wouldn’t even blink an eye at. I thought Despicable Me was too cute, loved the ending and it did pick at my armour plated heart.

  55. whitenoise44 July 30, 2010 at 10:33 pm #

    I’m always crying for pathetic reasons and in school I’m made fun of for being so sentimental, but my teacher always tells me it just means I have more emotion then them meaning I can connect and understand life and take it in! Its a good way to think of it.

  56. buytupperwarebangalore July 30, 2010 at 10:35 pm #

    The good old tears are a real antidote to stress built up over other reasons. Being a woman I cry all the time and more when I’m happy. Strange isn’t it ?

  57. Russell King July 30, 2010 at 10:52 pm #

    Only cowards won’t cry.
    Only weaklings can’t.

  58. garry July 30, 2010 at 11:07 pm #

    wow, your such a good father accompanying your daughters on movies.

    did you watch toy story 3, you will have a tear in your eye after watching it

  59. hearttypat July 30, 2010 at 11:56 pm #

    well, my boyfriend does that too, his strategy to prevent a predicament like this? stuff his face with popcorn (works like a shock absorber, which in this case, sucks out the tears or any wuss-like emotions in front of the screen). He tries that with horror movies as well!

  60. Lulu July 31, 2010 at 1:15 am #

    Cry does not belong only to girls/ women
    when the wells are full, they will spill out- natural!
    and by the way, I haven’t watched the movie, thanks for the recommendation.

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  62. sayitinasong July 31, 2010 at 1:44 am #

    Hey- crying makes you a man… and is actually a great sign of confidence… (that you “allow” yourself to cry)…I cry at anything.. but then again, I am a girl…lol!

  63. hungryhungryhorace July 31, 2010 at 3:01 am #

    I can totally relate. I am also a dad that cries while watching movies and TV shows. I think I disgusted my father in law once when my wife and I were dating by crying during a movie.

    I don’t like watching movies with people because I never know when something will set off the tears.

    Kudos for spending time with your kids.

  64. Benjamin July 31, 2010 at 8:05 am #

    I no doubt get the same connection and feel like I’m ready to tear up at any time, but I always seem to hold it in. I don’t know if that’s strength or weakness, but I’m pretty concious about it.

    It’s kinda silly that things like this are ridiculed though, emotion is just another part of life, not something that should be kept behind closed doors.

  65. Tulum July 31, 2010 at 9:45 am #

    Yep my friend, you are a wuss. If a man sheds a tear (note A TEAR as in one) it should be only if his loved one has just died at the hands of really bad people and you are walking away from an explosion. Then you can shed A tear before wiping it away and seeking vengance!!! So my friend if this was not the case then you are in fact a wuss!

  66. pearlsandprose July 31, 2010 at 11:05 am #

    Wonderful post! Your girls are lucky to have a caring dad like you.

  67. She.Is.Just.A.Rat July 31, 2010 at 11:17 am #

    This made me giggle a little…it reminded me of my dad getting a wee bit emotional during movies at home. I could always tell when he did it because he’d make the same movements and motions to try to hide that it was happening. I find that I take after him in that way…I tend to do the same things. It’s actually one of my fondest memories of him…thanks for the smile…

    RIP Dad…

  68. askthespis July 31, 2010 at 11:21 am #

    that is adorable that you spend time with your daughter’s! good for you πŸ™‚ i think it is perfect that you cried in these movies if its because of your love for your daughters. keep that relationship strong, it means a lot to have a good father in a daughter’s life.

  69. teganor July 31, 2010 at 11:40 am #

    It’s great that you cried. The world needs more sensitive men, seriously. I know someone who’s relative died and he refused to cry or even have any emotion besides anger (in public at least). And I cried curing Despicable Me too (I’m female, but still, it was an animation!)! I couldn’t believe it. Watching the character go through those emotional changes was really great! Yes, I think it’s the family moments that get to people.

  70. bettyx1138 July 31, 2010 at 1:29 pm #

    no, dude, its healthy to cry and express emotions! don’t be a maladjusted WASP.

    women will like you more for it. and you are teaching the kids that its OK to cry and show feelings.

  71. Nikhil Kardale July 31, 2010 at 2:01 pm #

    Good post, and nope, you are not a wuus because you shed tears when watching an emotionally touching scene, even in an animated/kids movie like ‘Despicable Me’ or ‘Toy Story 3’ or ‘Up’. You just express your emotions naturally, and in a more honest fashion than most people do.

  72. nyainswe July 31, 2010 at 2:23 pm #

    I cried in Shrek 1 when she said “I’m still ugly/ogre” or something to that effect and then Shrek was like but you’re beautiful to me. Awww… and then it was just boo hoo’s all the way for me.

  73. Roee P-ong July 31, 2010 at 3:31 pm #

    πŸ™‚

  74. Roee P-ong July 31, 2010 at 3:33 pm #

    Your face is full of sweat
    πŸ™‚

  75. love2bsmith July 31, 2010 at 3:34 pm #

    Something about having kids certainly puts a lump in your throat when watching movies that would’ve never moved you before.

    Btw, I liked reading your post, you have a real knack for writing. You are able to deliver your personality and your thoughts to your readers in such a way that it allows them to identify and relate to you with ease. In my opinion, it is that style of writing that made Stephenie Meyer such an amazing author.

  76. 23yellowringo July 31, 2010 at 4:31 pm #

    Wow, that is a lot of movies, and whole a lot of crying!
    Nothing wrong with sensitivity.

  77. amcloo July 31, 2010 at 6:23 pm #

    I think society makes us feel showing emotion is a bad thing especially for males but you have to think about it, humans are emotional creatures. It is emotion that makes us the way we are and without it the world would be an awful place! So you are not a wuss for crying, You are human!

  78. Anna Stusser July 31, 2010 at 7:08 pm #

    I do not know why our society looks down on men that cry (for whatever reason, yet expects women to cry about pretty much anything.
    It is in my humble opinion that it is actually cruelty that makes someone (who is trying to act strong) weak.

  79. Anna Stusser July 31, 2010 at 7:12 pm #

    Sorry, In case I posted YOUR site in the box where it says “website”. I usually copy and paste my website into comment space for them. But, I just copied your web address, so I could post it to my friend’s wall, and I forgot that I did that untill just this second.
    Sorry, and THIS comment is sure to have my correct web address in it πŸ˜€

  80. teapotchronicles July 31, 2010 at 7:33 pm #

    At least you have a good reason. I bawled my eyes out when I went to see “Where the Wild Things Are”. By myself. Looking forward to Ramona and Beezus. πŸ™‚ Keep writing, and congrats on being FP’d!

  81. maria July 31, 2010 at 8:25 pm #

    I SO get it! I get like that with mother daughter cry invoking scenes as well..whether in movies or books.. I just say I have soggy cheeks..

  82. grimaud50 July 31, 2010 at 10:56 pm #

    I NEVER cry watching movies. Well… almost never. I remember welling up during the president’s victory speech in Independence Day. Weird, but the only time I shed a tear at the theater…

  83. munley July 31, 2010 at 11:44 pm #

    You’re not a wuss. I’m usually close to tears at the end of movies too, but most of the time it’s because I’ve downed the entire bucket of Pepsi you can get at the concessions and I’m about to pop.
    Good for you, though. I take my girls to the movies as often as I can.

  84. Ryan August 1, 2010 at 12:07 am #

    Cats and Dogs: The Revenge of Kitty Galore was funny, but also had it’s sad moments.

    I don’t want to ruin the movie for you, so I’m not going to tell you about the plot of the movie, but I know for certain you will cry when you see Cats and Dogs.

    You are NOT a wuss if you cry at the movies…it just shows you have empathy, that you are human and that you are capable of displaying emotion.

    Ryan

  85. twotoned August 1, 2010 at 12:36 am #

    This reminded me of last Sunday when my boyfriend (yes my bf!) forced me to watch Eclipse. I never had the interest to follow the Twilight series but surprisingly, he does. He said he was looking forward to watch the ‘action’ but I found him teary-eyed– wiping his eyes and trying to pretend that his eyes are tired. I secretly feel the joy of seeing him cry because of a movie… it shows his ‘feminine,’ sentimental and emotional side. Mind you, he’s really manly and I rarely see this side of him. He’s Italian by the way. . . hahaa that might enlighten the stereotype.

  86. kutarere August 1, 2010 at 2:38 am #

    As a bagpiper, I play many gigs. Recently I was asked by a funeral director to play at a graveside service for a homeless man. He had no family or friends, so the service was to be at a pauper’s cemetery in the Kentucky back country. As I was not familiar with the backwoods, I got lost and, being a typical man, I didn’t stop for directions. I finally arrived an hour late and saw the funeral guy had evidently gone and the hearse was nowhere in sight. There were only the diggers and crew left and they were eating lunch. I felt badly and apologized to the men for being late. I went to the side of the grave and looked down and the vault lid was already in place. I didn’t know what else to do, so I started to play.

    The workers put down their lunches and began to gather around. I played out my heart and soul for this man with no family and friends. I played like I’ve never played before for this homeless man.

    And as I played ‘Amazing Grace,’ the workers began to weep.

    They wept, I wept, we all wept together. When I finished I packed up my bagpipes and started for my car. Though my head hung low, my heart was full. As I opened the door to my car, I heard one of the workers say, “I never seen nothin’ like that before and I’ve been putting in septic tanks for twenty years.”

    Apparently I’m still lost….

  87. whuffie August 1, 2010 at 4:32 am #

    Being female, I get more leeway at crying, but the love of my life is a very emotional man. As I told him once, the very fact you cry makes you stronger in my eyes. We live in a society where men are labeled weak, wuss, wimp, and a whole lot less flattering things if they dare show an emotion. Then what does it get them? High blood pressure, heart attacks, and they die younger than they should. It’s so pointless and silly. Men have feelings too, and your heart strings are being yanked by the things which are truly so very important in the world – your children. You’re not a wuss, you’re a rebel! πŸ˜‰

  88. Andrew August 1, 2010 at 5:13 am #

    Congrats on the Freshly Pressed. I think that is amazing. I really admire you putting yourself out there. It takes a man of character and strength to reveal aspects that not all fit into the regular mold. Brilliant!

  89. soul93 August 1, 2010 at 7:02 am #

    i cry at movies as well..but i have noticed that after wards i have a feeling of i dunno satisfaction and my mind in clear..its not exactly bad to cry on movies..i thinkk..

  90. paul August 1, 2010 at 9:55 am #

    A wuss doesn’t cry, he whines. Real men shed tears, especially when kids are involved. I have two boys. Their mother left several years ago. I struggle to do this on my own, but I do it…and I cry.

  91. Maitre D' August 1, 2010 at 10:55 am #

    Kudos for spending quality time with your daughters. Don’t feel like a wuss πŸ™‚
    It’s proof that you have a heart – you’re human after all!
    I enjoyed reading your post.

  92. Iris August 1, 2010 at 12:00 pm #

    My father doesn’t know what to do when he gets emotional during movies, and so he either mocks them or starts talking to me and my sister about how emotional this is. I would have preffered a dad who could just show his emotions instead of having to combat them all the time.

    • Colin L Beadon August 2, 2010 at 5:32 am #

      You are correct. Crying releases so much stress. It is the best way to let go of anything, or any person or problem. Crying is a sublime blessing, in any religion or way of belief. Perhaps just the spiritually dead, don’t cry. What would they have to cry for ?

  93. jatimlex August 1, 2010 at 3:34 pm #

    You’re not a wuss. When I got out of the military nothing made me cry. The older I get the more sensitive I seem to be getting. Just wait till you have granddaughters, should I mail you the Kleenex?

  94. Rob August 1, 2010 at 5:39 pm #

    I’m a wuss and I’m proud. Impresses the ladies except when I cry over spilt milk.

  95. arweston89 August 1, 2010 at 9:14 pm #

    I highly admire this since it’s something I never really had. Keep up the good fathering (:

  96. Anna August 1, 2010 at 10:36 pm #

    cute

  97. lib10ra22 August 1, 2010 at 11:08 pm #

    I believe that all men have to admit at some point and time that we have. Just growing up we are told you are man and you are not suppose to cry that at some point we forget that we are human also and we emotions. Crying is one of those emotions. http://protectwhatyouvaluemost.webstarts.com

  98. armyismylife August 1, 2010 at 11:22 pm #

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  99. channa0 August 1, 2010 at 11:45 pm #

    You’re not a wuss at all. Allowing your children to see you cry can contribute to a trusting and honest relationship with them. They are able to recognise that adults also have emotions and it is normal and healthy to display your true emotions by crying.

  100. Spaceman's Hairdo August 2, 2010 at 3:43 am #

    Hey, sometimes you just gotta let it all out.

  101. Curtis August 2, 2010 at 5:10 am #

    Best blog post I’ve seen all year. Not that it’s a competition–I just mean, really, the best. πŸ™‚

  102. Colin L Beadon August 2, 2010 at 5:13 am #

    Heck, I’m and ex-seaman and oilman. Deeply moving situations often make me cry. I’m proud to be able to be so moved. If more men were moved deeply enough to cry, perhaps we’d know a better world.

  103. Colin L Beadon August 2, 2010 at 5:18 am #

    The only thing wrong with crying when emotionally moved, is that all men should cry but don’t, probably because so few are deeply emotionally moved by anything. And that is a great pity.

  104. Smilingstrudle August 2, 2010 at 5:36 am #

    Hahaha! You should be proud of yourself! You’re a man not afraid to show your feelings.
    Though if you feel that you will loose your manhood you could always go do some manly stuff, for example fixing with your car?
    Great post btw!

  105. asksan August 2, 2010 at 6:10 am #

    I love that you love your kids and you cry. Not a wuss, just a strong, sensitive man who isn’t afraid to…cry πŸ˜‰ Thanks for this πŸ™‚

  106. Pat August 2, 2010 at 7:11 am #

    I love this post! I don’t see anything wrong with showing your emotions…especially to your little girls. It’s healthy and they’ll grow up knowing what it’s like for a man to show his sensitive side. Hope you won’t be the ONLY man they know who’ll do this!! Cry on, Dad!!

  107. mizzezmellymel August 2, 2010 at 8:39 am #

    What a beautiful post! Thanks for sharing.

  108. morgangreenster August 2, 2010 at 7:00 pm #

    People who have too much fear to shed a tear are really scared. Crying is a great release and restorer.

  109. Amy Michelle August 3, 2010 at 6:04 pm #

    Real men cry. I don’t trust men who don’t.

  110. morgangreenster August 7, 2010 at 12:17 am #

    I cried the other night. I felt incredibly better by the end of the next day. Like right now. I hadn’t cried in many years. I wasn’t against it. I don’t know why but it just never happened in those years. I was overcome with sadness because I have been doing art about earth worms for a while and realized it was coming from the painful feelings I have when I see lots of dead worms on the cement walk ways in my apartment complex. I also hate watching them stuggle to try to find the ground, but fail since they have no eyes. The whole thing feels very symbolic. I mean look what we have been doing to the planet and to nature. I agree with American Indians that we are here to be grateful for the earth. That actually being our reason to be here. Somewhere along the way we went in the wrong direction.

  111. steve August 11, 2010 at 5:28 am #

    if you are a wuss then you are not alone. i am a guy that cries alot with movies.i would say the wife and i cry at 95 percent of the movies we see she is a crier also. it told the wife that ramona looked a good tearjerker when we saw the trailer we will for sure have to see it. to me the best movies are the ones i sitting there with the tears streaming down my cheeks. i cry at sad movies and even the ones with real happy ending i will be crying also.there is nothing like a good cry with the family with movies.so you and i are not wusses we are men with hearts.nothing wrong with you crying in front of your daughters.

  112. morgangreenster August 11, 2010 at 12:54 pm #

    Dude, I was walking and for no reason tears just started busting from my eyes. It was awesome.

  113. steve August 18, 2010 at 5:39 am #

    hey man took grand kids to despicable me last night and this 53 year old grandfather was crying to with my grand daughter om my lap great movie

    • fightn4it August 18, 2010 at 5:59 am #

      Being a grandfather, that has to be a whole different level of special.

  114. Booksphotographsandartwork February 1, 2011 at 3:53 pm #

    I can’t watch any movie that has an animal in it. No pixar, no disney, nothing. I don’t care if it has a happy ending. I am still going to cry and I don’t like to cry.

    I remember listening to Romana tapes with my daughte when she was little and we laugher our heads off, they were so funny. Have you ever heard of Hank the Cow Dog? Oh my gosh its too funny.

    • fightn4it February 1, 2011 at 5:40 pm #

      I cried watching “Phoebe in Wonderland” just last night.

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